(Part One)
Being a People-Pleaser is a dangerous disease that has the power to infect your decisions, cripple your needs, and poison your potentials. It has the tendency to suck you dry of self, leaving only the husk of true identity. Here are the signs and symptoms to watch out for:
* Saying a happy-face-yes while your screaming “No!” on the inside
* You really believe that dress/tie is ugly, but you lie about how nice you think it looks
* Going above and beyond just to make a good impression for the wrong reasons
* You are not your top priority
* The opinion others have about you, is as important as a skydiver’s parachute
* You daily break the I.S. (I’m Sorry) record…even when you’re right
* Exchanging your happiness for approval/compliment
* You dislike sugar, yet you eat the double chocolate brownie each time your neighbor offers
* Religious beliefs are constantly neglected in order not to offend anyone
* You flatly fall for flattery
For some, it can be tough to take a stand. It gets even harder when you have to go up against close friends or family members. However, when your needs and opinions takes a permanent vacation while sucking up becomes automatic and second nature, then you have the P.P. disease.
Sometimes your motives can be pure, other times; it may be a lack of high self-esteem. Nevertheless, once people recognize these symptoms, they’ll take advantage. Frequently conduct self-assessment, and if you’ve identify three or four of the above indicators, consult the master physician. You do not need an appointment—just visit Him down on your knees.
Coming Soon: How to Overcome the P.P. Disease
Nice article! I smiled as I read, because God has taken me through this journey of overcoming PP! I still have times where it is difficult, rejection always hurts, but there is hope for anyone suffering from People Pleasing in Christ!
Thanks for the message!
Lisa
I love these words because they are so true!! Criticism is so hard to accept because it means we have to change and we don’t want to. We like how we are because we feel comfortable in our skin even if that means avoiding conflict. Yet, once we recognize who our true critique is, the burden is lifted because we are not having to please everyone else. Instead, we can be honest and true especially with the one who created us and knows exactly what words will come out of our mouth before we even speak. Nice job!
Thank you Lisa and Renee. Struggling with the PP disease is no easy task. But when we realize that above all, the only real opinion that should dictate our actions should come from God almighty,the fight against this disease will be won.