Is There Supposed To Be Just One “Right” Person To Marry?

So much time and energy is spent by many people trying to figure out the one person to marry. While it is true that there are certain individuals that one would not want to marry, like an abuser, someone who is irresponsible, or cannot provide basic needs, is there only one right person? Aside from the importance of Christians marrying another believer, some have the mistaken belief not backed up by scripture that there is only one “Mr. or Mrs. God’s Will.” The result can be like trying to find a needle in a haystack that leads to much frustration.

A person can have a successful and fulfilling marriage with lots of different people if his or her heart is right before God and they treat their spouse right. Finding the one also does not guarantee a harmonious marriage if a person does not know and apply the elements of having a good relationship. Any marriage requires work even if it is to the right person. What does the “right one” mean? Too often it probably means someone bringing love and happiness to the other, when neither may know what real love is. This is selfish and puts undue expectations on one’s spouse.

God can bring two people, a man and a woman, together for marriage. Remember the marriage vows say, “for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.” Through all of this marriage can build quality character in each person. As it says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, two people can weather the storms better than one, and two can support each other.

In Genesis 1:16 we read that God said in reference to Adam. “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” (NASV)  It does not say that God would provide just the right person to make him happy. Don’t misunderstand me here. Of course, it is important to be happy in marriage and to love each other with biblical unconditional love, but it is just as critical to seek God’s wisdom, timing, and supernatural intervention to bring into your life a person that God knows is a “suitable helper” in helping you through the journey of life. He already knows the struggles and circumstances you are going to face, and He is more concerned with building Godly character. He wants you to have a partner who will help you do that.

If you are contemplating marriage, what kind of person  do you think would be a suitable helper?