Staying a Couple Once the Kids Come

By H.W. Bass

Families expand everyday with the birth of children, but parents have a hard time staying a couple when they are running around trying to work and take care of their children on a daily basis. The best thing for parents to do when they are stressed and trying to find time for themselves is to look at how God prefers them to act as a couple.

God wants the couple to stay together, but God also made marriage for the couple to be happy and feel pleasure. The couple that is not getting the first fruits from one another is going to feel unsatisfied. Since God made marriage to be pleasurable and loving, parents should take time out for themselves. No matter how called parents feel to take care of their kids or manage their homes, they must be certain to have a date night that gives them a chance to be alone together.

God’s plan for marriage is for the romance to never stop. It may be delayed by children, but parents can find time for themselves when they plan for it. Honestly, the best place to find a babysitter is at church. There are plenty of good people who could use the money and likely already love the kids because they see them every Sunday.

Also, the family can help the church start fundraisers to help parents go on dates. People can watch the kids at the church while all the parents go out and get some time to themselves. From the Song of Solomon to today, marriage is supposed to a beautiful and pleasurable thing, and parents can make time for themselves if they plan ahead.

Rather than drifting apart, God wants parents to work on this part of their relationship and stay strong as a couple for decades to come.