When Parents Split: Death and Divorce

My parents split, but not in the way you might think.  One died from cancer when I was 5-years-old.  The other died of a heart attack when I was 21-years-old.

I thought nothing could have been worse than my mom and dad dying.  I know comparing pain is pointless, because heartache is heartache, yet I cannot help but feel compassion for close friends that went through the long-lasting pain and bitterness that divorce causes.

When a parent dies, there is a certain respect paid, a consideration in remembering the one who passed away, at least that is how it seems for me.  So often with divorce, it is common to hear one bad mouthing the other never realizing the damage it causes.

The one thing to remember is you are not to blame for your parents’ divorce and we are certainly not to blame if one passes away.  In the case of divorce, we all have our choices to make and that includes parents.  (God allows us all to make our own choices, sometimes we make bad ones.)  He will never force them to make the right decisions.  He has given them the freedom to choose.

You and I have freedom too!

We can be responsible for how we respond to this painful situation, whether it be your parents are splitting or someone passed away.  It is how we react and the actions that we take that will make or break our future.  What will you do with your freedom?

There will be times you feel rejected or abandoned by someone you love.  Always remember God will remain at your side.

“God is our refuge and strength, a tested help in times of trouble.” – Psalm 46:1 (TLB)