Should I Lose My Virginity?

With movie titles such as “The Forty-Year Old Virgin” and numerous T.V. episodes focused upon losing your virginity, or even the slightest implication that being a virgin after high school is deemed as weak and making you less of a man are all distorted perspectives of what it truly means to be a man, specifically a man of God. The majority of teenagers have come to accept this idea that life after high school as a virgin is not only a hit to your ego, but to your social status as well. Since when did this become the accepted norm? What are the benefits people are raving about that would make someone join majority in this situation?

Some people would claim that having pre-marital sex gives you the opportunity to gain “experience” so you are not embarrassed about having sex with your future wife or that you are able to decide what sexual qualities you enjoy from a mate.   Others state that the more experience you have, the more comfortable you become with your body and who you are as a man.

Yet, the experts forget to point out the high risks involved with such practices. In the United States alone, the “CDC estimates that 1,201,100 persons aged 13 years and older are living with HIV infection, including 168,300 (14%) who are unaware of their infection¹.” (Center For Disease Control and Prevention) The statistics alone should make you think twice especially when you do the math. Also remember that, when you have sex with one person, you are engaging in an experience with all of the people to which your sexual partner has been with. You don’t need to do the math to understand the implications of the decision. Besides, what hit would your ego or societal status take if you joined the numbers of those infected?

God did not make sex to be some type of experimental self-gratifying pleasure. Instead, it was made to create a union between a man and a woman (Genesis 2:24-25), and to keep a spiritual commitment between the husband, the wife, and God (1 Corinthians 7:5).  By having multiple partners, that bond which is intended as a union between the two has now become distorted and is no longer pure.  Until the bond is broken from the former sexual partners, the marriage relationship will remain unhealthy.  Therefore, we must “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18)

Although society may continue to mock, ridicule, and draw attention to those who choose to stay pure for their future spouse. They will never have to explain to your future wife that you were not willing to wait for just her. God understand the temptations and the pressure to which you are under, as his own son was tempted in multiple ways by Satan, but remember, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)  

God has called you to remain pure not only for your future spouse, but also for the sake of your well being in mind, body, and spirit.