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Since 1973, through the decision handed down by the U.S. Supreme court, over 57 million tiny humans have been terminated before getting a chance at life. Whose decision is it to keep these fetuses alive? Abortions have always been widely viewed as a “woman’s issue.” Especially since women who are for abortion always use these three words: “It’s My Body.” In general, the abortion debate normally falls under two main categories. Pro-choice, which covers a woman’s rights, and Pro-life, which emphasizes the embryo or rights of the fetus. But where do the rights of fathers fall?
Modern technology has made it plain that men and women do not have to engage in coitus to produce a child. Be that as it may, the gamete from both parties is needed for conception to be successful. I understand women carry a little extra burden—literally. Nevertheless, any decision concerning an unborn baby should be made by both parents. Just as how fathers have rights in court when it comes to the well-being of their children, fathers should also have a legal say in whether their offspring live or die. We often demand men to be fathers, then when they rise to the occasion, we disregard them.
I believe shutting men out of the decision making process regarding abortion further adds to the pile up of dead-beat-dads. After impregnating women, the response of these fathers is usually… “Well, that’s your problem… deal with it.” They fail to accept that the pregnancy is their responsibility just as much as it’s the woman’s. Then there are those fathers who honestly think they’re acting as good spouses if they remain silent and let the ladies handle it. Not true.
Men, you don’t have the support of the law, but you have God’s support and your speech. Discuss with your partner the possibilities of pregnancy, how to prevent it, and ways to deal with its consequences. If it’s too late for the prevention talk, there’s time for the cure talk. Ensure that your presence and support is felt by the woman carrying your child. Reassure her of God’s constant guidance. Lastly, even if both of you decide not to keep the baby, help her understand there are alternative options to abortion. Parents can put the baby up for adoption as well as leave him/her at a church, hospital, or police station. Whatever happens, choose life for your unborn child. Regardless of what society thinks, speak up. “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” (Psalm 127:3)
What’s your take? Where do fathers stand in the abortion dilemma?
Thanks for raising this issue, Amelia. The “fathers” have just as much responsibility as the women. They helped produce the baby, therefore, they need to help raise it and be involved in all of the decision making. A man needs to understand that if he gets a woman pregnant he has become a father, like it or not. Quite, frankly, I have little regard for any man who gets a woman pregnant then leaves her to fend for herself! On the other hand, why do some women allow themselves to be used like this? A woman ought to insist that the man be a responsible father.
You’re welcome John!
I only wish that all fathers would equally accept the role they play in creating a human being, and stand by their creation.
While I do agree that some women do allow themselves to be used, I also have to admit that some just get loss in a lie… Yet, regardless of the reason, mother and father should equally rise to the occasion and do their part in protecting God’s gift in the form of a child.
Agreed. This is one of my husband’s biggest rants…what about the men? The other side of the coin, volunteering with a pregnancy center, is that often the father of the unborn is standing there pressuring the girl to have an abortion, even while she’s watching her baby’s movement on the ultrasound.
Emily, those kinds of fathers are blinded by their selfish desires. If they think a baby doesn’t fit in with their life–for whatever reasons–then “off with his head!”
If they would only stop to consider that if their mothers thought what their thinking, they wouldn’t be around to even be thinking it!
Hahahaha! It is really funny that people think abortion is a mens issue as equally as it is a womans. It isn’t!
A lot of the time, men do not get any say in what a woman does with her unborn child. Their body their rules right? It makes no difference that birth control is pretty damn cheap and if the man and woman involved would have took two seconds out of their day to use a condom or any other birth control, pregnancy would have been avoided! But nooooooo! You don’t think when you are about to have sex and then you have get pregnant and abortion is now birth control!
What a crock!
Abortion should never ever be a birth control method. It should be a last resort due to death of one or both of the woman/child or rape (not even sure about it then).
While I understand a womans right to her body, the father should get some say in it as she would not be pregnant without the man!
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Nxs, I see you’re pretty passionate about the topic, thanks for chiming in. Although it is true that effective birth controls could minimize the occurrence of abortion, it solves nothing crying over spilled milk when the pregnancy is already done.
At this point, it’s important to know there are other options than abortion. It is true however, that whatever the decision, both parents should have a say.